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Ask Dr. C: I Miss My Hero, Happy Father’s Day

I miss my dad.

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Every year that goes by I realize how much of a force he was in my life growing up. He was there for me and the influence, I still feel today. I want to pass it along to you.

> He gave me confidence. His approval of my choices and decisions was one of the reasons I grew up believing in my ability. My mom’s approval was vocal. “I’m so proud of you!”, rolled off her tongue with ease. So when dad did speak, it meant more to me.

> He taught me how people should treat me. This was especially important when it came to guys. He taught me to be respected and to behave in such a way that fostered respect. MY KIND OF BEAUTY WAS ACCEPTED BY MY DAD AND THAT MADE ME LOVE MYSELF.

> He instilled self-reliance and goal setting. Here’s just one practical example: When I was 15 and learning to drive, he took me out to a big parking lot and told me that I had to learn to drive first with a “stick shift’ car. He wouldn’t let me learn on an automatic. When I asked him why I had to learn to drive the hardest way possible, he told me he wanted me to know how to drive any vehicle so I would never be stranded or at the mercy of what I didn’t know how to do.

> He answered my questions about God. He gave me a world view that included the miraculous and sometimes unexplainable. I am comfortable knowing that I’m not the center of the universe and that there is a greater “being” than me. His understanding of God, imparted to me, taught me that I can have my own relationship with God.

> He lived his life married to one woman – my mother. Keeping the vow he made to her has taught me about love and honor and commitment.

I miss you, daddy!

If you still have your fathers, lovelies, please take the time to let them know how much you love and appreciate them.

Dr. C.